For my podcast interview with Mark Black I decided to ‘wear my heart on my sleeve’ and show listeners that I’m human and have failings like everyone else! As I’m writing this I’m saying out loud (to myself of course) “heck Sarah, your failures made you what you are today”! If it wasn’t for those tough experiences you wouldn’t be where you are!
I’d like to share with you, that about 5 years ago my son had a significant mental health crisis from being severely bullied and as a mom, I felt “you failed as a parent”! I’m sure all you Moms/Dads can relate to what I’m saying. You feel defeated and think “where did I go wrong and why did I fail my child”! Now you may be thinking ‘well Sarah how does this relate to failures in your career’? Well, there’s a balance between your personal and career lives and one naturally impacts the other, which can throw that balance off. And I was completely off balance. I had worked so hard to climb that ladder that I was so distracted I didn’t even see what was happening right under my nose with one of the most important people in my life. I had to, to quote Mark, seriously ‘Level Up Your Life’.
Failure in any form, whether it’s failure in your personal life, your business, or your career, can strengthen you and better equip you to achieve your goals when you are able to see there might just be a FLIP side to it. Failure can actually be a great teacher. It can make you find the tools to get through it. It can actually set you up for greater success (by forcing you outside of your comfort zone).
Failure forces you to self reflect (which in itself is something we forget to do). Like me, you may be living your life on ‘auto pilot’, and when a failure happens, it forces you to step back and re-evaluate things. I feel that sometimes we forget to re-evaluate, shake things up or try something different which might actually make things better and give you the quality of life that you want! Not to mention you’ll discover your inner courage (oh how proud Brene Brown would be of you!) Mark connected with his ‘inner courage’, through the bravery he experienced after not one but two double lung and heart transplants. When the doctors told him, at 80lbs, he should tax himself, he thought, “to heck with that” and set his sights on marathons. And he’s done just that (for more on Mark’s powerful story, tune into the podcast and read more in my latest book Flip Side of Failing: How to Recognize & Leverage Greatness in Work and Life.
In my last blog post, I pay homage to all the Great Canadians who failed, got back up and went after success with a hunger! My hat’s off to all of you!
Have a courageous day and thanks for visiting! So grateful.