EP 8: Do You Feel Guilty?

Do You Feel Guilty?

In this episode of the Greatness Together Podcast, we discuss guilt. What is guilt? Why do we feel guilt? What can we do to feel less guilty? How can young women learn from their moms, leaders, and others who have gone before them to evict unnecessary guilt from their mental landscape before it becomes normalized?

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“I wish I could grab back all of the emotional energy and cognitive bandwidth that I wasted on feeling guilty.” Sarah McVanel

Greatness Together Podcast Highlights

  • Do you feel guilty? 0:00
  • What is guilt? 1:00
  • Sarah’s intense guilt. 3:00
  • The five love languages. 7:00
  • Guilt and comparison don’t mix. 9:00
  • The difference between shame and guilt. 11:30
  • Unmanaged guilt. 13:30
  • Next episode…Introversion vs extroversion. 16:00

What is Guilt?

We’re on a roll covering seemingly unhelpful, automatic, and unresourceful conundrums. Recently, we’ve covered perfectionism, comparison, and high expectations, to name a few. Now, we’re taking on guilt.

Guilt, in a nutshell, is “I did something bad.” But how many times do we feel guilty when, in fact, we didn’t do anything wrong?!

In this episode, we will explore how unhealthy guilt is. We contrast this to where guilt might be helpful; when is guilt an inner guide to realign us back to our core values (which are nestled deep, deep, deep within us, so much so we sometimes need assistance to access them!)

If you’re into this podcast, no doubt you’ve watched one of Brené Brown’s TED Talks, read one of her books, or caught a Netflix or Apple special, so you won’t be surprised that a contrasting concept to guilt is “shame.” Her definition, in its most basic form, is “I am bad.” The difference between “I did something” and “I am” is light years apart. In our episode, we’ll help you to notice, call out, and leverage guilt to your advantage rather than let it run the show.

We cannot promise you’ll never feel guilty again, but we can promise that you’ll have a better understanding of when emotions related to guilt pop up, that they track back to thoughts, and how to understand how to question their truth and what might be the reasons driving them.

Additional Greatness Together Links

Comparison episode: https://greatnessmagnified.com/podcast/ep-7-do-you-compare-yourself-to-others/
Greatness Magnified: https://greatnessmagnified.com/
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