They were unsure what to do. They were in a Monday morning hope deficit. They felt there was nothing left in the leadership bag of tricks. Added to this, they felt defeated, unsure they could help the many employees and clients who depend on their leadership.
Can you relate?
These two leaders are not alone. I have received more calls, emails, and texts like this in the last two months than I have in the last 20 years. Without breaking any confidences, let me tell you the throughline of my feedback to anyone who has reached out to me:
Because you care enough to struggle with the question “Am I a good enough leader?”…that tells me that you are.
Let me also say this: You may not feel you’re doing enough. But enough is all you have to do.
You’re doing the best you can. You’re still the right one for the job.
The job’ has changed, and you didn’t sign up for a new game. So what do you do when you’re in the midst of a game with shifting rules and no manual and changing players, and ever-increasing stakes? That is what this video is all about, from my deepest place of care and support (AKA: filmed Sunday morning with my daughter holding the camera in track pants and #bareface with a good ol’ flipchart and marker…yes, I actually do have a flipchart in my front hall closet…doesn’t everyone?)
Leadership Confidence in COVID – A Fantasy or Reality?
Leading through COVID has presented challenges to you and your struggling teams without warning or wanting. I have yet to connect with any of these leaders wondering what to do who hasn’t still, despite the struggles, had greatness in vivid technicolour.
In this video, I’m sharing two models I hope you’ll find helpful:
- The Conscious-Competence Matrix (Chapman, 2015) – what phase you’ve travelled through so far, where you are now, and why the PHASE (not YOU) is why you’re questioning your competence and is affecting your confidence
- The Failure Resiliency Model (McVanel, 2019) – how our resistance to being unsure is creating a mindset of scarcity when in fact, we have an opportunity to BUILD great resiliency through our mindset and intentional context-setting with our teams and peers
We ALL have gone through phases of having none of the answers, being ill-prepared, being unmotivated to lead ourselves, let alone others. Ironically, we feel alone in this, and yet right now, there has never been a time of more consistency in our struggle. You are only alone if it’s your own struggle; you are connected if it’s OUR struggle.
You don’t have to get a mortgage or negotiate the financing; you get to still see it as temporary even though we’re not sure when all of this will be over or what is waiting for us on the other side. All you have to do right now is keep the grass cut, so the neighbours don’t complain and pay the utilities to keep the lights on. And with any luck, you’ve saved enough and learned enough that when we’ve given our COVID landlord our notice, we’re even more prepared for the next step up the leadership property ladder.
Rent or own this time of strain: the choice is yours. This is the flip side of failing in action.
Above all else, remember: you are already greatnessTM.
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