Welcome back to Your Greatness Magnified. Work. Family. Life.
This week and next week we’re going to be talking about, ‘How to Get Unstuck,’ because so many people tell me they’re frustrated when they get into a rut and they don’t know how to get out of it.
So, we’re going to start with having some fun. There are things that you probably already have in your house, and your office, and you probably don’t even realize just how helpful they are to help you get unstuck.
- Inspirational Books
How many people have been given inspirational books or cards and have them sitting around your office or house? When was the last time you pulled it off your shelf? Well, now’s the time. I’ve got a great exercise for you.
One of the greatest ways to get unstuck is to simply open to any random page and read a quote or paragraph. Then reflect on how it’s relevant to a current situation. How can it help you to reframe your current situation? What is relevant about it? What metaphorical meaning could it have? We are meaning making machines. We search for connections. Let’s leverage that natural human ability!
For example, I randomly opened one of these books to page 71, and read, ‘I am totally adequate at all times. I accept myself and create peace in my mind and heart.’ Cool. Okay, so I think that’s telling me to just decide that the VLOGs I’m filming today are going to be exactly what you, the recipient, needs. Not to be overly judgmental of myself and my performance. Wow, I actually feel a huge weight off my shoulders! Seriously! For real.
- Inspirational Cards
Similarly, with a card. You randomly take a card and assume that the universe has sent that card to you. Here’s one I just selected: ‘I find harmony and silence within.’ Hmmm, I think I can see the connection between those two things. I think the universe is telling me to just be chill, and okay with myself. I bet I’ll film better VLOGs when I do that. Silence my inner critic, and focus on adding value to you through these VLOGs.
- Children’s Games
Perhaps like me, you’ve got a stack of kids’ games, probably a bunch you haven’t used in a long time! You can take one out and play with a metaphor. I’ve picked, “Spot It”, a game where you try to see the one common image between two cards. I could use this to play with a metaphor. When I look at these cards, what jumps out at me? One of the images I notice is a snowman, and I interpret that as ‘cold’. What do I need to understand about my current situation and why I noticed ‘cold’? Maybe I am being cold to myself—I’m being cold versus compassionate with myself. Maybe I need to melt some of the stress and judgement. What would you see if you selected the snowman? How would that relate to your current situation?
We all have dice. In fact, don’t tell me you don’t have a bin, or a junk drawer somewhere that’s got dice and you don’t even remember what game it goes with! You can roll a die to tell you how many minutes you have to deal with this particular issue. I rolled a 1. Great. I only get 1 minute to ruminate on the particular issue I’m stuck with. And then, after that minute—set your timer on your smart phone—you don’t get any more time to ruminate or fixate about it. I’m guaranteeing you, that even if you got a 6, it probably would be less time than you would normally focus on that issue.
Lastly, cards. We always have a deck of cards. You can use them in a similar way as dice. The card you select is how many minutes you have. Here’s another way. The card that you pick, that’s how many ideas you have to come up with to try to address a current challenge. I drew a 10 of clubs. 10? I only got one minute to ruminate, and yet I selected a 10? I have to come up with 10 ideas? So, if I’m trying to address and get more sensitive and respectful of myself I need 10 ideas. Let me see. I could phone my mother—she is always really good for that. I could journal, I could book a call with my coach, I could ask my best friend for advice, etc. Just list 10 things, any ten things, and say to yourself at the end of that, “Which of those 10 things am I going to do next?” See? Unstuck. You have a next step!
What ideas do you have? Any fun and novel ways you use or have thought of through this post of how to get unstuck? I’d love to film another VLOG with your additional ideas. You never know how your ideas can help someone else when they need it most!
Any why not share this VLOG post with someone who likes to have fun, looking for new ways to solution find, or is, well, stuck!
So, grab those handy things you have around your home or office to keep them close at hand the next time you need to get unstuck. Mine sit on the top of my credenza, ready to use for my own reflection or to help a coaching client.
Come back next week, I’m going to give you some powerful solution-focused questions to help you get unstuck, created by my co-author Brenda Zalter-Minden. In the meantime, feel free to hop onto my website, and click on ‘Cool Stuff’ anytime you would like free resources. They are there just for you.
Be well…be great!